This morning my wife wakes up at 5am. It’s not easy to do your morning meditation when someone is preparing tea and cleaning up the kitchen right next to you. I tried to close my eyes for a moment, but it’s weird how self conscious I feel about meditating in front of others.
Now here is an opportunity to reflect. If this would’ve been me as little as three years ago, I would’ve commented on the fact that my wife starts doing dishes at 5am while I’m trying to do my meditation two feet away. Today however I catch myself before starting this discussion. What kind of practitioner of peace of mind starts an argument over not finding peace of mind? I think to my self.
So in this moment I start going through my toolbox. What kind of philosophies could I use in this moment? I did read somewhere that when you find yourself in a challenged situation. You should use this opportunity to practice. So what I’m doing right now is kind of meditating with my eyes open. I’m writing down my feelings in this post instead of acting on them. I am avoiding an unnecessary discussion and I’m getting stronger by doing so, victory!
Now this might seem small to some of you reading. But not for me, I know better these days. This is how war starts! This situation could’ve been the first little argument of the day if I wouldn’t have caught myself.
I’m going to stay calm and just keep on writing in my morning diary. I’m not going to say anything, I’m just going to keep on writing, I’m not going to say anything… 10 minutes passes and I’m still calm.
So now my wife comes with a fresh cup of coffee and places it on the table next to me by the sofa. I say :
Thank you my love, that’s wonderful!
Now she has finished her tea, she’s scrolled through her Facebook and she is going back to bed. I haven’t expressed any negative feelings and I’m feeling calm. This means that I can actually do my meditation now.
So with peace of mind I’m reporting to all you men out there in the world. We don’t always have to say what we think. sometimes she just wants to have a cup of tea and that’s okay.
Now I don’t know if I’m different from the rest of you out there, I would love to hear your comments on this!
I am confident that this will be an amazing day!
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